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| 12/13 |
Okay so Marie has had six hours of Doctors appointments over a two
day period (Monday and Wednesday). Monday was a complete work-up.
We are still waiting for the results from all the testing but the one
thing the doctors did tell us right away is that Marie is under
nourished (not malnourished). So she has been eating but not
enough of the right things. This has lead to her hair being very
coarse and her having a perpetual case of seriously dry skin.
Today, Wednesday, was the audiologist. Basically the one test they
did today confirmed that Marie is at the very least profoundly hard of
hearing and is in fact probably deaf. The good news is that at
this point she looks like she will be a good candidate for a Cochlear
implant. If that happens and her speech development follows a more
or less "normal" track, Marie could join her brothers and sister at
Summit by the third grade! What a great thing for her! We
will have to see if the further testing supports the initial thoughts on
the matter. Whether or not she has the implants, we have great
resources available for her very close to home. |
| 12/8 |
Marie did great on the flights home! There were a couple of
times when she threw a bit of a fit but in both cases it was just before
she fell asleep. On the last leg of the trip (Detroit to
Cincinnati) she fell asleep sitting up in her seat before we ever took
off! She absolutely loves her brothers and sister. She plays and
plays. Rachel is absolutely loving being a big sister. The
only part of it she does not like is when Marie chooses to be with Micah
and / or Adam instead of her! Micah was having a rough time of it
as Marie was more interested in big sister Rachel and Adam (who is
almost her size) but then last night Marie came up and snuggled with him
on the couch... he was in heaven! Adam loves having a little
sister to play with. They have been doing great together and Adam
is figuring out that his sign language skills from school now have a
purpose at home. Rachel, Micah and Adam have been out of bed by
about 5:45 the last two mornings as they want to be ready to play with
Marie when she wakes up. Yesterday they all went in and climbed
into bed with her and woke her by giving her kisses... she awoke with a
smile (something mom and dad were never able to manage with her).
She is in the throws of the time change. It will, it seems,
take a while to get her on our time schedule. Unfortunately during
the night (and most other times) Denise is the one she wants.
Consequently Denise is not getting much sleep. It seems like she
might only have a couple more days of the confused clock. With the
weekend coming up we can let her cry a little more at night without
having to worry about the other kids waking up on a school night.
We will see.
Monday and Wednesday of next week Marie has Doctors appointments.
Monday is a physical and Wednesday is with a hearing specialist.
If we have news on Wednesday night or Thursday morning we will post it
here for anyone interested in finding out about her hearing situation.
(Mike) |
| 12/5 |
Well, it is Tuesday night here and we are packing to come home!
We waited until the night before to pack for coming here and we waited
until the night before leaving to pack for the return trip. We are
ready to come home! We miss everyone (especially Rachel, Micah and
Adam) and hope to introduce Marie to everyone over the next few weeks or
so. With the holidays, she is going to get more of family and
friends than she bargained for. We probably will not post again
until we get home... here is to a good flight and thank you to everyone
who helped us bring Marie home! Mike) Okay, so this is it! (Yeah!!!)
We went to the Chinese Consulate in the "new" Guanzhou and stood with 50
other families to swear an oath that all information we submitted was
true to the best of our knowledge. It was interesting standing
with all those families thinking about what each of these children have
in store for them and all the opportunities and possibilities that exist
in the very room we are standing in. I was moved to tears
and Mike giggled at me. It is amazing how much time and energy
each of these families have put into bringing their child(ren) home with
them. Marie is now a Chinese citizen in China, and a US citizen in
the US. The oath officer recommended that we strongly encourage
our child(ren) to always travel with a US passport even as a dual
citizen for the sake of utilizing the US consulate and embassies in case
of emergency/need in their future travels.
Our day started with an early breakfast... amazing that the paper we
received, on our way to the airport to fly to Marie's province, reported
her schedule to be the same as ours! Up at 6:30 am, breakfast at
7:00ish, lunch then nap at noon and dinner then bedtime at 8:30 pm.
I think her foster mom knew the Johnson household schedule and she
helped Marie prepare for her 'forever family'! She is just like
Rachel and needs some coaxing to awaken then... on the go... needs to
eat like Micah and Adam, though. Then play and learn time.
She is so visual and smart (did I mention how smart she is... just like
her older sister and brothers!?!?!?!)
We started the group day with pictures at the infamous red couch in
the White Swan hotel lobby with all the children dressed in Chinese
attire. Then more photos then lunch and playtime. Nap and
then off for the 40+ minute bus ride to the Consulate. During the
bus ride Mike and a couple of other people were talking about the gender
imbalance already seen here in China (more boys than girls). There
have been about 10,000 babies adopted from China (70% of those to the
US). At this point there is already a gender imbalance of 10's of
millions more boys than girls. Given that only 10,000 have been
adopted, where are the rest of the girls? Aborted. Abortion
is illegal here in China (as are ultrasounds to determine the sex of a
baby). However, people find out the gender of their child and
sometimes decide to abort that life if it is female. Some blame
adoption for the gender imbalance... not the case at all - it is the
"one child" policy of the government and choices pregnant women (and
men) make in the midst of hard to fully grasp cultural and economic
pressures.
After the consulate appointment we had the chance to have one last
meal with some of the other families in our group and enjoyed this last
meal together (2 families already started their flights home today).
We have the opportunity to see all of our group families again at the
FTIA family reunion in the summertime. If we can attend, it will
be fun to see the children after some time in the US and be able to
speak on their medical interventions as all the children in our group
are "special needs" (several with cleft lip/palate, one with a right arm
brachial plexus injury, one with abnormal genitalia, two with heart
defects). After dinner it was packing time!
Well... here we come- ready or not!!! We can't wait to see everyone!
You're gonna love Marie! (She's a lucky girl... she just doesn't
know it yet!) See you soon! Thanks again for all the love and
support! (Denise)
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| 12/4 |
Okay... more of the same! Walking, shopping, eating, sleeping, site
seeing... we are ready to come home! Tomorrow is our last full day
here. We leave early on Wednesday. Tomorrow we take an oath in front
of agents of the Chinese government promising to care for and love
Marie. We can not take photos or video so we will tell you about it.
After tomorrow, it is official... Marie is a Johnson (she has no idea
what she is in for). (Mike)
We had dinner as a group with FTIA (our international agency)
families, ten in total and all adopting special needs children ages 15
months to six years of age. We ate at a Thai restaurant called Cow and
Bridge (the English translation... I could not even begin to say the
Chinese name!) Interesting menu selections... baked goose (yes, head
and all), pig intestines, ostrich (as in the big bird) kidneys, fried
goose feet... sounds good, huh?!?!?! That's what I said. Marie and I
settled for pineapple pizza and Mike had the sweet and sour chicken with
cashew nuts (he also tried the pig intestine!)... needless to say we are
ready for a serious large Domino's pizza!!! It was fun being a big
group though... lots of laughs and Marie did a great job!
As Mike said it was a pretty low key day. Nothing eventful, which is
appreciated! Tomorrow we will dress all the kids in their Chinese dress
and get a famed photo on the red couch in the hotel lobby overlooking
the Pearl River. That's at 10:30 then to the Consulate for the final
decree (oath)... that should be interesting! Then we are all through
with the political stuff. Marie will be official and will then become a
US citizen (as Mike and I both traveled) as soon as she steps off the
plane in the US!
We are all so ready to be home! At least Mike and I are... Marie may
think differently when she realizes that Mommy and Daddy's attention is
not all for her anymore! It will be an adjustment, but I think we will
do just fine! She's a lucky little girl and we're lucky to be blessed
with her! She is so smart just like Rae, Micah and Adam. She already
signs boat, mom, dad, more, sit, eat, drink, thirsty, hungry, and walk.
She is also working on please, thank you, happy, sad, and silly! Today
she tried to say "up", touching my throat as I said it and trying to
form her lips! We'll see what God has in store for her!
Well, off to sleep for us- you all have sweet dreams! Oh, Rae, Micah
and Adam... don't let the bed bugs bite (if they do, bite them back!!)
Love, Mommy
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| 12/3 |
Rachel, Micah and Adam... we got you guys some gifts from China
today! I'm not telling what they are. We miss you guys!
Today we did some more traveling around China. Marie threw a fit
at one of the places we visited as she was hungry and tired. I
gave her a bag of cookies and she ate them all! Even after eating
all those cookies she was ready to eat lunch when we got back to the
hotel. She played today at a park for a while. You three
have a lot to teach her! She does not even know how to go down a
slide (she tries to walk down it). She is learning how to "ruffle
up" but her arms and legs are very weak so we will have to be careful
with her. One of the buildings we saw tonight is a giant TV set.
It is as big as the entire building. The only lines you see in the
picture are where the windows are. We will try to take a picture
of it for you tomorrow. See you guys! Love, Dad. Hey
lovebugs! Daddy is right... we miss all of you terribly!
Can't wait to show you the cool stuff we found for you! We have
been eating at a place called "Lucy's" or in our hotel restaurant
because we have to be very careful not to get sick (the water here can
hurt our tummies). We have eaten a lot of rice and breads.
Yogurt, believe it or not, is very easy to get here and Marie seems to
like it. Rachel... I have a favor to ask- can you find one or two
small (not too small) purses for Yi (you all remember that's her
nickname) so that she can carry her goodies- her little hands are too
small to juggle them without loosing a few. She likes a little
yellow ball and a little book we brought from home, and a few little
rolley animals. I will also need Micah and Adam's help as Marie is
still not happy in the bathtub... apparently they just spray off the
children with cold water so bathing is not an enjoyed event. None
of the babies/toddlers in our group of families have enjoyed bath time.
You'll need to help us get her comfortable with it, okay?
The temple we visited today was neat, so much history here!
Trees in the courtyard alone were over 200 years old! There is a
lot of worshipping on the temple ground for the Buddas (for longevity,
happiness, wealth, fertility, etc) with offerings on the altars (fruits,
drinks, maize oils, etc). There were also temples to honor
deceased family members... very respectful.
This culture is P.T. heaven... the people young and old exercise all
the time. They have incredible work ethic and the exercise seems
to offer social opportunities too- badmitten and hackey sack groups
laughing and running. It's really neat. No obesity problems
here. They actually have exercise (albeit metal) equipment in the
public parks. Often times the people doing the elliptical
exercises are 60+. They also do a lot of group exercise with music
and one or two people leading a group (like low level aerobics), most
commonly groups of women.
People are very friendly here, too! The rumor here among the
guides is that Chinese adoptions are slowing drastically as people are
opting to keep their children or for some other reason the percentage of
Chinese children available for adoption is declining rapidly. (One
comment was that up to 98% of available children in the orphanages are
"special needs"). With the decline in adoptions it is not a good
prospect for all the vendors here in China whose business centers around
foreign adoptions. We sure are glad for our timing on this amazing
journey!
The pictures are neat from our day... it was a warm day so we spent a
lot of time outside- the temple, the park, near the Pearl River next to
our hotel (the White Swan). Rae, Micah and Adam- Daddy and I
figured Marie will probably enjoy our excursions to The Purple People
Bridge! The picture of Marie trying to get the stone ball out of
the lions mouth has an interesting story. Our guides told us the
rumor is that whoever can get the stone ball out of the lions mouth
becomes the owner of the Chen temple... no luck though! Well,
we'll write soon. We love you and can't wait to come home!
Rae- did you have fun with Lisa and Ellie for the Christmas Craft
gathering on Sunday? Sorry mommy couldn't be there, but I bet you
all had a good time. Maybe we could have a Christmas Craft
activity after we get home that Marie could participate in too!
You all (Rae, Micah and Adam) can think about it and we can decide...
okay! Love-Mommy
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| 12/2 |
Today in Guangzhou it is beautiful. This area is very nice.
The weather here is warm (sounds kind of like the weather is similar to
that of Louisiana... minus the hurricanes). Last night was a bit
of a challenge for Marie... she is longer than her crib! She was
trying to get comfortable so we got a mat for her and we might try that
tonight. We went to a medical center for the mandatory health
evaluations this AM. This medical facility was much nicer than our
previous experience. Marie checked out fine... the funny story
here is that the ENT that checked her out used a toy key board and a
squeaky duck to assess her hearing. She said she has residual
hearing. We will have to see how her use of the "art" of medicine
compares to the "scientific" testing which was done that measured
stimulus in her brain stem and noted no activity up to 120 decibels (the
highest the test goes). Marie continues to do well and has now
granted daddy good graces again... finally! She is a handful...
loves to play and wrestle and be silly. She is just like her older
sister and brothers! Mom and Marie are napping. I'm doing
this post and listening to the music on my phone... I am ready to be
home and back on my own turf. (Mike) |
| 12/1 |
So we are in the famed "White Swan" hotel. The hotel is a last
stop respite for most (if not all) of the families adopting from China.
Here all our final paperwork gets completed before we fly home in a few
days. The hotel is full of families getting to know one another.
Marie has been doing great! Our one hour flight was long enough to
get a sense of how she will be on the plane - honestly... it was much
easier for her than we thought it would be. She wanted out of the
seat and pleaded with us by signing "toilet" but we did not take her as
we feared what would happen once she realized she could walk up and down
the aisles and see new sites. Her personality is out in full swing
now. She is cute and has the funniest facial expressions.
The trials of our first four days (and probably more in the next couple)
were obviously about her dealing with being separated from her foster
mom. In the midst of having the various conflicting medical
reports and then seeing her those first few days it was difficult
trusting that we were not seeing the true Marie and that in time we
would. While I am sure we are still not seeing the fullest
expression of her personality, we are getting closer and she is doing
great. Her struggle adjusting to this change is a testament to the
care from and her attachment with her foster mom. She may have
spoiled Marie but she definitely laid a good relational foundation for
us to build on. (Mike) |
| 11/29 |
Marie woke this AM in a little better space. She actually sat
for about 10 minutes outside of the bathroom watching Denise and I get
ready for the day. We went for a long walk (we have walked a lot
and Marie has decided that I can not carry her or hold her hand if
Denise is around - I will never arm wrestle Denise again... she would
take me). We then went to this great culture and arts center.
There we began to see more of Marie's personality. She was
laughing and pretending to fall when walking so Denise and Cindy would
catch her. She chased me around a room for a little bit and let me
pick her up and tickle her. Just as we were entering the pavilion
we got in touch with Dr. Stadt (our Doctor back in Cincinnati who
specializes in children of international adoption). She told us
that she had reviewed and shared Marie's CT scan and urine analysis with
other Doctors in the hospital and felt that everything appeared to be
normal. At this point her best guess is that what we have in Marie
is a very smart little girl (she REALLY knows how to manipulate her
world) who is deaf and VERY spoiled. Her foster mom probably went
even further than other Chinese mom's do in catering to her every want
and need (parenting is very different here). Dr. Stadt advised us
to simply do whatever we need to do to get home (don't try to "break
her" and don't be afraid to give her Benadryl on the airplane). So
we now at least have an educated guess about what is going on.
That is at least something to hang our hats on. (MIKE) Today did start
off better, as Mike said. Marie was playful and full of
personality as we toured the pavilion. It was a very peaceful
day... the visit to the pavilion was interesting. The dance and
entertaining show was a touch of the cultural history. The wealth
of cultural heritage in the contents of the building at the pavilion was
amazing. So many artifacts that have survived 38 rebuildings of
the pavilion due to revolutions and wars that resulted in the
destruction of the prior hardscape. Bonsai tree gardens and water
surround the base of the structure as it stands today. There is a
display where they have the shoes that the Emperors female family
members wore... they did bind their feet and the shoes were small enough
to fit Marie! Ouch!
I have always viewed butterflies as a reminder of the presence of my
dad in our lives. On the fourth floor of the pavilion was an
entire display of the local butterflies as one Emperor apparently
appreciated their beauty. It was a much needed "Intervention
Bisig"!
After our tour of the pavilion, we ate at a local Chinese restaurant.
Marie ate five bowls of steamed egg, beef, broccoli and fried rice! (Yes
five bowls... we can't imagine where she puts it!) Then nap
time... my left arm is resting as Marie's foster mom must have always
carried her on her left side. After nap time it's walking again...
to the local outdoor mall... we get a lot of onlookers and young Chinese
who want to practice their English. Older females enjoy smiling
and saying "Hello" (in Chinese of course) to us.
Cindy met us in the lobby at 4:00 to visit a temple. It was a
rich cultural experience as the monks were participating in a ritual of
music and "worship" at the feet of a 36,000 yin (1 yin=2 kilograms)
copper statue of a Buddist figure. Mike stood and watched the
ritual for a while. Then we walked around the temple grounds and
got a picture with the monk students and spoke via Cindy's
interpretation with their master. Very interesting (Mike's second
favorite cultural experience of the trip... the first was being on the
great wall, the third was being in Tiananmen Square looking at the
picture of Chairman Mao)!
We walked across the street to the August 1st park (the history for
August 1st was the last revolution in 1989 and the date is celebrated in
Nanchung). It was fun and Marie enjoyed the water surrounding our
path and the boats on the water... she is drawn for some reason to
fish...
We ate, again, at Pizza Hut... pepperoni pizza (for me to really like
pizza, I must be desperate!)...it was good! Then into a taxi for
our trip back to the hotel... Marie is getting tired. We have
visited a lot of bathrooms in China... Marie needs to use the "toilet" a
lot... not sure why. Is it a 'this is the only thing I still have
control over and darnit, I'm not giving it up without a fight' or is
there something physically going on (urinary infection, etc).
Before we left for China, I scheduled Marie's first appt with Dr. Stadt
and the ENT at Cinci Children's Hospital. I'm sure they will be
able to shed some light on the situation!
Well, it's bedtime (yes at 7:30 pm) and tomorrow will be the day to
get her passport and then fly to Guanzhou... keep praying! |
| 11/28 |
Let me start off by saying we are more than ready to get home!
We went to Pizza Hut for lunch today and neither of us like their pizza
(although the pizza we had here was great)! While we really are
getting the chance to experience China and deepen our respect for the
Chinese culture, we are ready to be back home with the kids as well as
our family and friends. (Mike) The Nanchang Zoo (Denise).
Cincinnati's zoo is wonderful and while Nanchang's does not compare, it
was nice and very good for Marie. We saw fish... lots of fish who
wanted all the food Marie was willing to throw their way with Dad's
help. The fish would literally swim over each other and out of the
water in hopes of getting a pellet... amazing (I don't think I'll ever
eat fish again!) Anyway... there was a dirty panda bear (as our
guide Cindy told us, they do not revere them as much as we expect),
elephants, lots of different birds, lions, tigers and bears (oh my! as
the Wizard of Oz would recite), a sun bear, and dogs!... yes dogs in the
cage with the lions and cheetas!... weird! We were there for an
hour and then off to lunch.
Our guide got us to a local pizza chain (no, not Dominos... much to
my chagrin [sorry Brad!]) and helped us order lunch. It was the
best darn pepperoni pizza I have had in a loooong time. Marie even
enjoyed a slice from daddy. We then caught a cab and returned to
the hotel for Marie's nap (I'll be honest... Mommy has been napping
too!)
After nap time we went for a walk... about a 1 1/2 hour walk....
unfortunately, Marie wants mommy to hold her the entire time! My
left arm is about to fall off! (I need to clarify something to all
those other mom's who sooo appreciate Mike's wonderful skills as a
dad... he was in good standing with Marie for the first two days and
Marie would let him hold her. For whatever reason though, he has
lost graces with Empress Marie, and only mommy can hold her!!!! (That'll
need to change in the Johnson home!) Anyway, we found a neat
outdoor mall a few blocks from our hotel and we enjoy taking walks
there. There is also a "department store" on our trip to the mall.
We have been there several times to buy pull-ups, sippy cup and a few
other incidentals (Tide soap bars to wash clothing in the basin).
After our walk it was time to play in the hotel kiddie playroom (very
basic) and then in our hotel room. We actually met a really nice
couple from Michigan in the Tokyo airport and fortunately are staying in
the same hotel here in Nanchang. They were in the playroom (had
come to our room to see if we wanted to join them but were on our walk)
and we had the fortune to talk to them and another family about their
experiences. After that, dinner, then another walk, then off to
bed. That's where we are right now... exhausted and contemplating.
Can we give Marie what she needs without sacrificing the needs of
Rae, Micah and Adam, or Mike's and my relationship? Can Team
Johnson handle the added stressors of having a member who may have
additional needs not known to us now that may impact the entire team?
Can the Johnson household function given the additional special needs of
one member? How do we handle this situation, knowing that all we
want is a loving, healthy and happy home? What about the "lost
sheep"... is that Marie, or our family unit? This has been
the hardest decision Mike and I have had to make... we appreciate all of
your love and support ("Intervention Bisig"... as I call my dad's
presence in our lives will help too!) and know that we will have
your support whether we decide to come home with open or empty arms!
Thanks ahead of time!! |
| 11/27 |
Wow! This has been the most difficult two days we have spent
together. Dealing with all the unknowns in a country with a sub
par health care system working in a language you have no clue about is
incredibly stressful. At this point we know that Marie's condition
is more involved than we were told. Yesterday after we did the CT
scan we found out that Marie has been on two different medications up
until the time she left to join us. We have not been able to get a
clear understanding of what those medications were for but one was
apparently being taken to offset the affects of the other. The CT
scan did not show anything conclusive. Our doctor will need to
review the originals as the faxed copies are so bad she can't really
make a lot of sense out of them. This poor child is in such a
difficult spot. We have been, fortunately, upfront with the
adoption agency and the people we are working with here regarding our
desire to adopt Marie if we think we can healthily meet all our kids'
(Rachel, Micah, Adam and Marie's) needs. At this point - to be
honest with you - we don't know that we can. She seems as though
the attention necessary to help her deal with all her issues (being
deaf, possibly being apraxic, allergies, chronic respiratory infections,
some sort of skin rash/infection on top of being an orphan) may not be
available in the Johnson household. What a terrible thing to say!
However, we have really felt the worse mistake would be for us to
blindly go into this thinking we can handle whatever she has to throw at
us. At this point we realize we are not going to get anymore help
from the medical community prior to having to make the decision.
So we have a couple of days to really try to get to know Marie and see
how things are progressing. One of the kind of funny things that is
actually quite a red flag is that she throws a fit when we enter into
the hotel. She wants to be outside all the time. Any of you
that know Micah and Adam (and Rachel to some extent) know the irony here
- they love being outdoors and Adam frequently helps himself to trips
into the yard... and our neighbors yard... and the neighbors house
without us (okay, Mike) realizing it.
Another thing we need to say (amidst the complaining about the
Chinese medical system) is that the people here are very nice.
Nanchang is a fairly economically depressed area yet we have felt no
threat of violence even amidst our after dark walks. People are
very curious about Marie and want to talk with her (we usually let them
know she is deaf as they wait for a reply and look at us like "what have
you done to this child?"). Every other country I have traveled to
(including the US) I would never think about being out and about in an
area as economically depressed as this is. Anyway, we just wanted
to make sure we reported that the people here are wonderful, they care
deeply for their children and if the people we pass each day in stores
and on the street are representative of the majority they are very
peaceful people.
Sorry about the lack of photos... as you can tell from the notes
above we have had a lot on our minds! |
| 11/26 |
Marie slept great last night! She woke up this AM at around
7:00 and cried a little but not too bad. She ate a great breakfast
in the restaurant. We then, on advice of our Doctor at Children's
in Cincinnati took Marie to the hospital. She suggested we do so
to find about about a few things. First, Marie's balance is not
very good (hence the scabs on her forehead and her missing front tooth).
Second, she is going to the bathroom about once an hour (lots of
urine... no poop... too much information I know). Third, her left
thumb is a little deformed and needed a look. Fourth, she had
bumps on her that needed to be addressed (possibly scabies).
Fifth, her hearing and what they can tell us about why she is deaf.
All of these issues are small in and of themselves. However, put
together painted a picture that our Doc thought we might want to follow
up on before making our final commitment to Marie. The results
will be back in a couple of hours. So, the hospital. If anyone
EVER hears me complain about our health care system - hospitals or
Doctors' offices please simply say... "Remember the hospital in
Nanchang." This is the nicest of the children's hospitals in the
city... kids squat down and pee right on the floor, adults spit on the
floor and are smoking inside, people huddle around INSIDE of the exam
room and watch the doctor treat the children, there are vomit/pee
containers sitting all around on the floor and finally (at least for
now) we were the ones who gave Marie her anesthetic to put her to sleep
for the CT scan. It was bizarre to say the least. This has
been our greatest "culture shock" (although the number of people in
these big cities is a close second). We had no idea that the
healthcare situation in China was in such a state. People let
their kids throw toys on the floor and then pick them up and put them in
their mouths. It seems as if the concept of germs... bacteria...
biological organisms... etc. is completely foreign. So their is
either one of two explanations for the situation. 1. This
situation is incredibly unhealthy and China's medical system is in the
dark ages (and no, China does not have socialized medicine). 2. We
in the US are way to "germ-a-phobic" and go way beyond what we need to
do to control the spread of illness.
Anyway, today has been educational. This afternoon (after Marie
wakes up from her nap) we are going to go for a walk around the city and
check things out. After that it is dinner at the hotel and then
Marie is getting a bath! We waited to give it to her as her
clothes and the smells of her body serve as a sort of transitional
object from her foster home to us. We did not want to take that
away from her too soon but with the trip to the hospital it must be
done! |
| 11/25 |
5:00AM: I woke up this AM at around 4:30 unable to get back to sleep as I
think about today. We are flying out of Beijing today at 11:30.
We will land in Nanchang at about 1:50 and then will check into our
hotel to wait to find out when we receive Marie. All kinds
of emotions are running through our minds but most daunting is how are
we going to communicate with this little girl? With an infant you
can hold them close and kiss them and your touch and tone of voice
communicates safety and love. With Marie we can't do that.
Not only can she not hear but she does not know us and would be alarmed
(based on what we have seen in the DVD of her) by our touch. I
think our plan is to use food (candy) and toys (with lights) to try to
help here feel at ease. There is, for us, a pit in our stomachs
right now wondering how we can communicate to her that she is going to
be okay even in the midst of this very difficult time of uncertainty for
her. 3:07PM: So we are here in the hotel. We arrived in Nanchang
at about 2:00, got to our hotel at about 3:00 and will receive Marie at
4:15! We are going to travel to an adoption center - not the
orphanage. The orphanage director (Mr. Woo) will be bringing Marie
to us. We are both excited and scared. Nanchang is the
provincial capital. There are over four million people that live
in the city! It is not nearly as polluted as Beijing - we can see
blue sky through the clouds. We'll write again after we receive
Marie and we have regained our senses! Pray for us! 8:48PM: We
went to the CCAA's adoption center in Nanchang at 4:15 and had a private
"gotcha day" with Marie. Marie was very uncertain of us but was
willing to do some interacting with us. Playing with a ball,
giving us crackers, sharing a little animal toy. About ten minutes
or so after we got there, we left with her. She got into the taxi
and was looking around... she began to whimper a few minutes after we
left. By the time we got to the hotel she realized that she was
out of her element and began to cry. She cried for about three
hours and so we fed her and put her to bed (it was a long day for her).
I slapped my hands together a few times right above her ear to see if
she would startle (she seemed to respond to some noise earlier) but she
did not move. She fell and scraped her head a couple of days
ago so she has quite a scab on her forehead. We will see how
tomorrow goes... it is not easy to say whether or not she has issues
other than being deaf affecting her. It seems that she lays in her
crib on her back a lot as her head is very flat in the back. We
will see what tomorrow brings! It is difficult but we are glad to
be with her and getting to know her. |
| 11/24 |
Okay... Denise is asleep in bed! She is exhausted and it is
only 7:30PM here. We have had a couple of very busy days.
Today we went to Tiananmen Square and the "Forbidden City". It is
amazing standing in these places so packed with history. The
square was huge (actually the biggest "town" square in the world).
We all remember Tiananmen Square from the 1989 protest in which a
college student was run over by a tank of the Chinese military.
This image of those days in 1989 is very incomplete. We were
taught that there were at least a thousand students slain by the Chinese
police and military forces that night as they protested in support of a
democratic China. Today the contention is that there were not
thousands of people killed but hundreds and most of those dead were the
military and police forces themselves. Second to them, the dead
consisted of angry workers protesting their working conditions and pay.
Third, then, would be the college students. The other interesting
thing is that for most protestors involved the issue was not democracy
(as opposed to communism) but capitalism (as opposed to socialism).
The Chinese government had been moving in the direction of capitalistic
economic thought and were removing much of the socialistic
infrastructure that protected the rights of workers, their pay, health
care and the like. The Chinese government was moving towards the
idea of capitalism - make the people work for what they get. This
idea has won out here. However, there have been and still are
great social ills as the result. I honestly don't know the truth
of the situation in Tiananmen Square. It is amazing that an event
in 1989 is so difficult to substantiate. Some contest that there
were no deaths on Tiananmen Square that night - the college student in
front of the tank was never run down. As I have tried to research
the events here in China, the only web pages that come up are those
supporting the idea that the massacre never really happened. Of
the 23 sites I tried to open not one of those seeming to support the
common Western idea of what happened in 1989 opened. Can the web
be filtered like that? I don't know... maybe it was just a bad
internet connection. We also got to see and stand in front of the famous portrait of Mao
Tse-Tung hanging on the front entrance of the "Forbidden City".
Chairman Mao Tse-Tung was elected president of China during a period of
great struggle. China was wrestling with who it was in the post
WWII world. In Chairman Mao's opinion China was selling out to the
world. Giving up its own natural resources and ancient culture to
feed an insatiable western world. He brought China back to its
roots - focused their attention on their rich culture and laid the
foundation for modern day China. He was a man of contradictions as
this "foundation" for China was rooted in its ancient past yet he was
willing to do away with elements of that past he personally did not find
value in (he was the law). He was a philosopher yet was able to
put forth the ideals of communism and
socialism into a black and white package so that the commoners might be
able to understand the virtue behind these two systems of governance and
economics (here is the online version of his "red book" which he wrote
to put forth his vision for China
http://www.marxists.org/reference/archive/mao/works/red-book/ ). He is very much revered in this culture
not for his political or economic success but for his success in
unifying the Chinese people helping them to understand themselves as one
nation eternally dependent upon one another. This is a link to a
brief article in TIME magazine when he was named mane of the year (http://www.time.com/time/time100/leaders/profile/mao3.html).
We went inside the walls of the "Forbidden City" from which the
feudal Emperors reigned. "Forbidden" because only the emperor, his
family, his servants and closest advisors were allowed within its walls.
An unbelievable compound filled with room after room for the various
events in the emperor's days, weeks and months. There was a lot of
work being done to refurbish the buildings and grounds for the 2008
Olympics. |
| 11/23 |
We woke up early... Mike was up by 5:20 (am), which is 4:20 pm back
home! We ate breakfast (carefullly as we need to avoid water,
unboiled foods, etc) and met up with the other families receiving their
children from our same agency. We left with our guide, Jeanne and
charter busline driver, and visited The Great Wall. We were
"Heroes" as we ascended a lot of stairs, both big and small, and made it
past a certain level. We stayed at the Great Wall and visited the
temple and did some sight-seeing for about 1 1/2 hours. We then
left to eat at a "Friendship Store". The food was chinese, but
with a western twist. It was good. After having the option
to buy souvenirs, we then left to visit the Summer Palace for the
Emperors of old. Big, beautiful architecture... very colorful.
There was a plague telling of a Su Guan who was an Empress... maybe Yi
Shang Guan is truly an empress???? The drive back to our hotel
included a stop to photograph the Olympic stadium in preparation for the
2008 Olympics. The drive was eventful, as the bus driver was
defensive and the other drivers were, well, crazy... taxi's driving
between lanes filled with other vehicles, people on bikes as if there
were a gas shortage, and a few near misses. We then decided to
remain in the hotel and eat in the room as other couples in our group
chose to do as well. Time for PJ's... Tomorrow we are due to
leave at 10:30 to visit the Forbidden City and an acrobatic show.
Beijing is due to have it's first snow of the season tomorrow... we'll
see. Wonder how much snow Marie has seen in her life?!?!?!
We did receive some paperwork on Marie... looks like we are out of
diapers... finally!! Marie must have known she was coming to us as
she has the same nap and bedtime as Adam... hopefully it will not be too
difficult to switch her to our time zone!
Rachel, this city is busy! We think it's busy in Cincinnati
going to and from school, but here the city of Beijing is populated by
15 million people (1.3 billion people in China... that's a lot of people
isn't it...) it's hard to think about even counting that high.
Micah, There are a lot of bicycles here. Parking lots filled
with cars back home are filled with bikes here! So many people on
bikes that they actually take up an entire lane in the road!!!
It's quite dangerous... maybe their mommy or daddy forgot to tell them
to stay out of the road.
We miss you... please give Adam, yourselves, Grandma/Grandpa J and
Grandma M a hug for us! We love you! |
| 11/22 |
Tuesday night… we packed until about 12:30AM
(Wednesday) and just as the packing ended… parenting began! Adam woke
up vomiting and remained awake for the remainder of the night. Grandma
and Grandpa J report that he is doing fine today (Wednesday).
We got to the Airport in Cincinnati only to wait
for an hour as computer glitches slowed the systems putting all North
West flights about an hour behind. The flight from Cinci to Detroit was
a short one (we have a cool photo of their tunnel from terminal to
terminal – lights flashing everywhere)… the flight from Detroit to Tokyo
not so much so! 13+ hours on the plane. We watched a couple of movies,
talked and studied our sign-language flash cards. No sleep the night
before meant we also dozed off and on during the flight.
We flew from Cinci to Detroit then up over Canada
and Alaska (the views over Alaska were awesome... mountain ranges,
glacier beds, etc.) and then over the ocean to Tokyo.
Tokyo’s airport was filled with duty free shops
selling all kinds of items (especially perfume). In the Tokyo airport
we saw some people who were on their way to adopt and we spent an hour
or so with a couple who was adopting their third child from Asia (two
from China, one from Korea).
When we arrived in Beijing we met with 11 other
people who were also adopting through FTIA (Families Through
International Adoption).
We miss everyone! We are watching Mike’s cell
phone which shows us the path of night / day across the globe. We have
been chasing the sun and just now are in the “black” of night. We are
looking forward to getting to the hotel (which we heard was very nice)
and getting some sleep… in a bed! |
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